OK, I have some serious baggage surrounding my mother and family who live in Colombia so please forgive the negative tone. Throughout my life my mother has had very few good things to say about me. They don't believe I'm sick, instead I'm lazy. After my mothers latest stab in the back I doubt I'll even go to her funeral. I'm not going to be a hypocrite and pay my respects to someone who screwed me over.

I guess what I'm saying is, if this is a common occurrence, don't go, it is hard enough to manage the disease without added garbage. If you've had a good relationship and it is a matter of education, and you feel you have the energy, then go.

Good luck!