For me it would depend on the illness, too. If I had a stomach flu I would stay at home. Since I have to take the bus to get to T, I would potentially be spreading a very unpleasant illness to lots of people on the bus, as well as to T - besides, being sick to my stomach usually leaves me too weak even to walk to the bus stop. Fortunately, I don't get stomach bugs very often, and not while I've been seeing this T.

A common cold on the other hand, that's not something that keeps me home. Ok, it's not nice to get a cold, but it is a relatively mild illness for most people, and T has told me that he doesn't want me to stay home if my concern is only with his not getting ill.