Hi niceguy, it sounds like you've struck really unlucky with the shrink you've got. But although she may have seemed like what you're going through didn't matter, wasn't that important, YOU know it IS and WE know it IS. So I hope you're seeing it as HER failing in the way she treated you. I'd say she just wasn't up to the job, or even basic human empathy/understanding when you saw her.
As for whether they hate you, that's a hard one........you probably know right now that there can be SO many emotions following a break-up and it can be hard to control whichever one's you're feeling. I know it was you who ended it, but in actuality it was just as much them as well. You gave them plenty of chance to come through with just something but they just didn't and they've got to know that. But they should also know that you really did care about them, if not right now then at some point.
And you showed them that they are capable of having someone truly care about them, so you did give them SO much. It's now maybe as much about them reaching for that/seeing that it in themselves and bring that into finding a way to start making things better for themselves.
As for loving you, they may well have, but probably in their own way. It does sound like they may not have been capable in loving you in the way you loved them though. And probably not through any discriminatory reason, more so perhaps because they just couldn't.
You know they might try to contact you, but if they do then I'd say that it's probably going to hurt both of you in trying to just pick up where you left off. If they do maybe you can advise them on where they need to be going next in turning things around for themselves, but without them at least starting on that path and doing it for themselves then anything more is likely to go down the same tracks as before.
If they don't contact though maybe see it as a good part of your life in many ways but one that would only bring you both further down if it continued?? You DID try your best, you gave them everything. And you know you may well have made a positive impact on their lives too, somewhere deep down there.
And although you may not see them the way they were again, you can still see that in memories so maybe honour those memories in your mind (know that things changed but.....). You DID try, you DID go for it but sometimes things can only go so far.
And YOU, you know you have it in you, probably without even trying/without even thinking about it in having that real connection with someone, in loving and being loved by someone.
Now you deserve happiness just as much as your now ex, you know that don't you?? So maybe while giving yourself time to let go, allow yourself to feel and believe that. If they ever appear again then see where you're/they're at but it's the here and now that really matters and just allow yourself to gradually/slowly find connections/things that really matter with others in your life too. And maybe you're going to find someone who is really right for you in that process.
Of course it's going to take time, uncertainties, doubts, pain but you're not on your own. Here for you.
Alison