To me, Bipolar has never been a defining point of who I am, how I act is a defining point of who I am. That means that I'm not ashamed to tell someone that I'm Bipolar, but if my behaviour is 'off' due to Bipolar then their might be a problem.

So if you think that your Bipolar is going to cause serious trouble in the relationship, and you *don't* tell him, then you're just hiding a truth that will come out later, delaying the inevitable kind of thing. That said I think it's best to let someone know as soon as possible.. whenever the time seems right, because if they're going to leave you for no other reason than having the label, then it really wasn't meant to be.

I told my current partner long before we were in a relationship. In the early days of knowing each other I figured she was a trustworthy person so I let her know a little bit about my history. After a while I proved that I was capable of maintaining a stable relationship, and so it never became an issue for us.

As for the child thing, I have the same worries. I also worry about other issues. Honestly, I think this is an issue to take seriously and put real consideration into, but at the end of the day it's a personal decision you need to make and live it without regret.