A friend of mine had ECT and was disturbed by the memory loss problems. Although I think they were ultimately temporary problems, he was hospitalized once for walking around in a "state of confusion" and being unable to tell anyone who he was. He had temporarily lost his identity with a short-term amnesia that appeared to be related to his recent ECT. Anyway, he was very scared by that. I would at least be very cautious.

I wish you the best and hope things improve for your girlfriend so you guys can be together!

Sidony