Ahhh...what a breath of fresh air this site is! I've spent the last year immersed in a Cuckold/Hotwife forum site living out my fantasy vicariously through others! I'm not here to condemn or berate that particular site, but I will say the best analog for it this: It's as if I were a binge drinker and went to a forum whose members were alcoholics and I asked them if they thought I had a "drinking problem". After awhile, the cuckolding fantasy or experience becomes "normalized" and I wanted it even more. Luckily for me, my wife of 17 yrs. will have NONE of it. I was very open with her and discussed it with her ad nauseam and ad infinitum, but she has firmly stood her ground to the point that I have finally realized that I am not going to convince her to try it and that I need to change my behavior. So, I quit the site...I had to physically request it from the admin moderator to DELETE my account because I didn't have the willpower to quit logging on every day and comment on threads or view pics of the "hotwives". So, now I am without a home. Am I addicted to sex? Probably. At least I am addicted to the behavior. I use it to deal with anxiety from work/life related stress. Sex IS a powerful drug and I do use it to sefl-medicate or even procrastinate.

What I would like to say to the women in relationships with men like me is this: Set clear and firm boundaries with your S.O./Husband. Don't give in to this fetish. Don't compromise your values and morals. Trust your gut instinct. I rarely saw a "happy ending" to the couples involved in cuckolding. It's an emotional addiction for men, and perhaps even some women. Cuckolding/Hotwifing is the "heroin" of sex...it's very powerful and intoxicating, even just being an outsider looking in. I saw the men involved in the lifestyle needing increasingly more from their wives as it progressed. It's a high that men can NEVER get enough of and they ask their wives to either have more sex or even fall in love with other men. There's probably lots of different reasons for men to do this, but at the core is an addiction to emotions...and those emotions usually stem from low self-esteem or insecurity issue with their masculinity or manhood.

On that note, I'd give your S.O/Husbands a chance to work through their issues in a reasonable time frame, but if their overall behavior doesn't change, I'd move on. Not all men have this issue. There are healthy men out there...trust me! Good luck.