I had a gf... she had one daughter with a guy whom she divorced because he was not ambitious enough. I have never met him but based on her stories, he was a totally nice guy.

My friend acquired a bf, who was 15 years older and an exec at a national chain of stores. He retired and decided to make money off porn. One thing led to another, and in the meantime my friend's daughter grew to be a sexpot teen - naturally blonde very long thick hair, tall and long-legged enough for basketball team, and with a pretty face.

I will skip the gory details.

In the end, the former exec lost all his retirement money in a settlement because the Playboy sued him for copyright violation. He and my friend separated, and she was penniless. The daughter went to live with her father (that nice guy who lacked ambition turned out to be the most solid, stable support she had I life). He put her through college in SoCal. Last time I heard from my friend, she called asking me to wire her a little money to pay for her phone. I did. Oh, and she told me that her daughter tried to have her admitted into psych er. I don't know what happened later, and since they have very common names, I cannot find them online.

this is not a cautionary tale since your circumstances might be different, but...but...