I have that happen, but it was after two years of serious dating. I stood in disbeleif as he confessed that he had been married and had a 7 year old son. My first thought was why the hell didn't you ever mention it. He said he was afraid I would leave if he gave me all of his past (he had a lot to swallow) and everytime he tried to tell me, he would freeze up.

I was furious and hurt and questioned everything he told me. I felt I couldn't trust him at all and almost ended it, but instead of doing that, I told him that it was going to take some time and he was going to have to answer all of my questions in complete honesty. I told him that I may rollercoaster in emotions and he better take it as it comes.

He took it all and spoke the truth whenever I needed it. It has been three years and I love and trust him dearly and am glad I didn't leave. I did insist that I become a part of the little boys life also, so when he visits (the child lives far away), I am included.

Good luck, talk it through and let the chips fall as they will.
Angela