Does she have any interests/hobbies like art or music; you could try a different type of therapist (art therapy/music therapy/poetry therapy, etc.). Females do "lie and hurt," her mother abandoned her. I would imagine "hating" the male therapist might have to do with protecting herself against the thought that you might die/leave her too. Does she have any favorite aunts or other females, grandmothers, etc. that could help? My father's sister was a great help to me (she's 93 this April).