((((Talulah))))

You so eloquently describe your frustration. CBT is helpful to many people, so I see how it can feel like failing when it is not clicking for you. (I'm one for whom it is not the ideal therapy either, so I hear ya!) How long has your T been using CBT with you? If you have given it a good try, and a long trial, maybe it is time to try a different approach. Can you discuss these very issues with your T? Maybe she has in her own head a plan, like "I will try CBT for 3 months with this client, and if it doesn't seem to be working, I will move on to Plan B." Maybe she can make her plan more transparent to you. Also, maybe she has a really different perspective than you and thinks CBT is working. And she can give you some "evidence" to show it is helping you. It's hard to tell what they are thinking unless we ask.

Also, I think when someone says they are "eclectic" it doesn't necessarily mean they can do all therapeutic approaches. For example, someone can be eclectic if their training was primarily one approach but they practice another, if that makes sense. So a therapist may have been trained primarily as a contextual family therapist, for example, but favors CBT in practice.