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Old Feb 20, 2014, 09:52 PM
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Originally Posted by Flyawayblue View Post
I don't know what happened during the time she spent in foster care. No she isn't adopted. When my wife died everyone's true colors showed. To make a long story short a lot of people wanted custody of my daughters for money. My family and my wife's family are very greedy. My wife and I always put aside $ for our kids. Some family members said I couldn't raise daughters by myself because I was man and wouldn't understand how to talk to them. One of my wife's family member wanted me to send a few kids to live with her out of state. They tried to take me to court and made false allegations against me. Which led to me daughters being placed in care without any warning on where or why they were being placed into care. It was hell trying to get them back. And they still make allegations against me. Which is why I cut off some of my family members. I hope nothing happened to my D in care. I know foster care was a traumatic experience for her and for me. This happened a few years ago. She said she wants to forget about it and I agreed with her. So we try not to talk about it and move on.
Wow. That's terrible. A lot of foster care places and homes can be abusive. Also, just the fact that she was ripped away like that can be very traumatic.

The thing is, trauma grows and becomes a monster when it isn't dealt with. I know it is easier to bury it, but it might be very healing for her if you could get her to talk about it, either in therapy or just with you. It would probably be extremely painful, but also very good in the long run for her. Also, do some research into PTSD, and see if you recognize the symptoms in her. If so, bring it up with her therapist.
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