I am not sure if now she thinks that it is much worse than she thought before because of the type of rape - maybe it's because you gave her some details and she started imagining that? E.g. here, where I live now, **** rape is not a rape at all (according to the law at least) but I cannot judge which of them is worst - both are extremely horrific...
My exT also knew from the beginning what happened but when I told him some details, he could not handle it at all - and I was also surprised what he had expected, he had known what happened, he wanted to hear some details so why couldn't he handle them? That's why I think that maybe giving some details makes Ts imagining it and that's why it becomes more difficult for them then we would think?

Already from your previous posts I realized that our stories are similar with respect to abusers, age, actions etc... I have recently started trauma work but my current T doesn't want to hear anything about what has happened - she also says that it's too early (for me but I am wondering if it's not the case that she cannot handle it). My T only knows who and when but not what...