Thank you to all for your thoughfull comments. I hadn't thought about a lot of those things.Blinded by love I guess. Especially the part of her being a victim. We work at a small company so there is no transferring. We are both on the same level. We are basically second in command to the bosses. I will try all those things to change my feelings.

I'm grateful for this forum to be able to get feedback from unbaised people.