She sounds like she may not be the therapist you need. Have you considered switching to a T who will help you work on your relationship with your husband? Or getting a separate marriage counselor to focus on that? It's quite possible that your current T doesn't want to focus on him because you're the one in therapy. She can't change him just by talking to you. She can only change you. So if I were her, I would also want to focus on you. Does that make sense?