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Originally Posted by Webgoji
But that's their job; to dig deep into what's bothering you. We can often end up hiding behind our "false selves" in our outward relationships and it seems like we're going great and everything is fine. But when a layer of that "false self" is peeled back, we suddenly become vulnerable and, as you said, develop some heartache.
But is that sense of freedom you feel really freedom or is it comfort because you can go back to hiding?
It's quite possible that she wanted to keep the phone calls available, but she may have been approached about charging both for the financial benefit of the group she works for and because of a blurry ethics line. What I'm saying is that it may not have been entirely her decision.
Anyway, I agree with the others that getting back to it may be one of the best learning experiences you could have.
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Thanks, it did occur to me that she's been advised by her supervisor to charge because when she offered them to me she said the money wasn't what was important to her in this job. I felt awful not being able to pay and that's why i feel so shamed now, like i took something i didn't deserve to have.
I disagree with it being unethical, i think boundaries can still be kept. It's not the money that keeps the boundaries in check it's the therapist. And she was doing that in my opinion.