I can relate Tongalee. My T has done some terrible things to me and I'm afraid he continues to talk about me. It hurts so much...the thought of it...how close we were....and finding out that he really was against me all along. I'm sure there are not many like mine. Your T sounds like she wants to help you. I suggest being cautious and watchful of her behavior. If you ever find out she's done the things you suspect of her leave immediately.