I have a relationship with my mother and it is quite sweet. Best it's ever been. The reason is she can say whatever she wants and do what ever she wants all within reason and it no longer affects me the way it use to. The past abuse and arguments can come and go in my head without any angst. She's still my mum and I love her dearly. She's just not the mum I always wanted and felt I needed to feel good about me and about my life. I accept her as she is. It was the process I spoke about in my previous email. It is the transference between you and your therapist that I believe will get you to the other side with mum. I think that's the practicality of it in the here and now: what if I blow it like I did with mum...and others? You have to go through it with whomever is available. Your mother is not available and may never be. You can still have a relationship with her. Can you accept that Yearning?

As I've said before only my opinions and thoughts.