asia, just now reading through your thread and so glad you've talked and mostly worked it out. i do think you've been doing good work with your T despite her changing things around a bit on you. this was her mistake but she took full responsibility. that is really important that she took responsibility and not too many Ts seem to do that. it's hard because Ts need to be consistent but then when they are flaky it is like real life and we get the opportunity to deal with our baggage. strange paradox. you did nothing wrong here so please remember that even when that 6 year old threatens to pitch a fit. (i'm teasing you here because i know you don't really believe in the inner child stuff.)