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Originally Posted by Yearning0723
I'm confused by this, who would ask that? Why would anyone who isn't close to you ask you that?
But anyway, you can say lots of things.
" my mom and i have a rocky relationship"
" we get on fine"
" I lived with my mom till i was 13 then went to live my dad (because you missed him, wanted a change, wasn't getting on with your mom, less stress)
" it's none of your business"
" i'd rather not talk about it"
" it's a long story"
As you get older that question will become less relevant i'd imagine. You already live alone right?
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There was a specific situation yesterday where this question came up and then I told that story because it was the easiest answer in that situation. It's for a mentoring program my T recommended for me and they want a lot of information about your family background, things you have difficulty with, things that make you anxious, etc. so they'll be able to match you with someone appropriate who can "handle" your issues. I figured it was in my best interest to answer honestly rather than using my usual, "It's fine," or "It's rocky," or "It's a long story," but at the same time, the program coordinator didn't have an hour for me to sit and explain to her all the complexities and nuances of our relationship.
So in brief, "She kicked me out when I was thirteen, I went to live with my dad, we didn't speak for two years, then we started rebuilding our relationship; it's fine now but there's still some residual hurt/mistrust there." That story just sounds a lot cleaner. But I also hate myself for telling it that way when it isn't 100% accurate. I mean, in my mind, it is (ish), but that's just my perspective, and the response I get always makes me feel "cared for," which then makes me feel guilty.