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Long read. Please bear with me I need help.
My bf is 27 and I am 21, we have been dating for about 3 years. Recently I've been feeling like my depression and self esteem have been plummeting because of him. I have no one to really talk too about my relationship (he gets upset if I vent to his friends because he says I'm going to change their views of him.) Here are some things he does that make me think twice.
-If i have plans with a friend he will get aggravated and threaten to go back to his home town to stay. Once I cancel my plans with said friend he won't want to hang out anymore and says that "I was looking too much into what he said"
-In an argument, even if I'm right he'll keep twisting things his way. He can never admit to being wrong. He'll call me crazy and delusional if I do prove him wrong.
-If I make him mad he likes to make sure everybody (all our friends) know and will make a big point to ignore me.
-If I do something to make him wrong (which is almost all the time, did I mention hes always unhappy with me?) I have to beg and beg for his forgiveness.
-If I want even the smallest bit of sympathy he says I need to grow up and stop playing 'victim".
These are just some examples. I feel like he will subtly punish me if I do something to upset him also. I have brought all these points up to him saying I feel he is unfair. His response is that I am the wrong who is that way. I honestly feel crazy. Can someone offer insight please?
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