This is a pretty good thread & a very good effort by Alone & Confused as many of us do feel that way. I guess it's our basic emotional need to be heard, to be understood by someone & many of us can relate to the feeling of getting unheard/unanswered/misunderstood & this place is like a platform to all of them. Fortunately, I also do the same or at least try to do the same by lending my sincere listening ears to others but some times others don't realize that you also need to be heard & you get ignored like you don't even exist. It needs a big heart to be able to take everyone's litter which they thrown at you without knowing your capacity & not everyone can do that & I truly value those people who do that.

I.Am.The.End, thanks for sharing your story with all of us. I think I can relate with it pretty well but I try to keep it in my mind that I'm responsible for my own feelings & no one else is. The other person couldn't care more or less for what I or we feel & its true for every other emotion as well whether that would be anger, jealousy, love, hatred, etc. I'd say that at least that friend of yours was an honest person that he dared to tell you that he doesn't love you more than a friend. At least he didn't lead you on or try to cheat with you by taking advantage of your feelings & if you can't handle your feelings for them because its not reciprocated & that causes you to be sad then dump those feelings & move on but if you'll become a strong person & face the truth & reality & still hold on to these feelings & celebrate it & continue being the same person which sometimes can be hard but is very rewarding at the same time & tell that person that it doesn't scare you off then I'm sure that they will find it pretty admirable & they will respect you even more otherwise its like ordinary plain love which everyone does but to love someone unconditionally without getting anything in return is a great kinda of love & I truly honor it. Loving them was your own choice & may be they weren't in the position to do the same. Become a giver & don't beg. Giver is more great than the receiver. If that person doesn't realize that how a great person you're than its their loss. That means they are blind. So, its better to accept it & live with it as it'll make it less painful.

About the size, virginity, apparent beauty, etc....Is physical beauty more important than a loving & a caring heart? Relationships based on the physical aspects are so vulnerable that it can break off at any time. Those relationships are so hollow & have a very weak foundation & its a very shallow approach IMHO. Not saying that you're but if a person direct their feelings towards someone based on their looks then I wonder that how easily it can be changed. Be who you're, love & respect yourself as Ubermensch also mentioned it in "Love or Money" thread that the most important thing is to love yourself & the others will be able to see that love & hopefully someone will truly love you for who you're. Love & Respect yourself because you wont receive it from others unless you would love & respect yourself. I hope this may make you feel better.