I'm very sorry to hear that.

I understand about not wanting to beg for attention, but... you could also look at it as being assertive, honest, and taking care of yourself... maybe she would see those as positives?

I can't tell you how to get over the being unsure part... I usually just cave into my desire to repair the rupture and fix the misunderstanding, but... I can say, in retrospect, as someone who's been through several ruptures, big and small, that with a good therapist, as it sounds like you have, they heal very well, leave little trace, and improve understanding.