Transient,

You didn't understand what I was trying to say. I was not suggesting OP "try" to look pleasant. I suggested she stop her being ageist etc. (Reread the OP - there is a heap of very hurtful stereotyping and assumptions there). Had she stopped making those judgmental and stereotyping comments in her mind, her face would have looked pleasant automatically and without trying. That, unless she is a professional spy who fully controls her facial expressions, but I doubt she is - I think she is a run-of-the-mill kitty owner, like me, without special training.

You have missed the crux of my post, in essence, misinterpreting it to mean that OP should have TRIED to look pleasant.