I would definitely go to a pDoc for diagnosis, not just the family doctor (if that is what you've tried so far). Look online for those pDoc's that are available and covered by insurance in your local area, then look into current reviews and information on their specialties.

Make sure they have a broad span of general mental illnesses that they are knowledgeable about, but try to find those that specialize in BP, ADHD/ADD, and anxiety disorders. I also recommend that you find a pDoc that isn't afraid to ask an associate for their educated opinion. {I have had many different doctors over the years myself, and the absolute WORST are those that feel too high and mighty to even consider someone else's opinion.}

((((best wishes)))))