I may be off base here, but to me you are describing the desire for a man to completely control you. And lots of us love that. It's the basis for a lot of D/s relationships.
It gives us a feeling of helplessness that is damn erotic (you know if you have read any romance novels..)
We like being overpowered and feeling helpless....
And, on the flipside, it's equally as empowering and erotic to be Dominant....it's goes both ways.....Power gets your adrenaline pumping and gives you a wonderful "high"....

Perhaps if you didn't use the word "rape" in your thinking, it might make your fantasy a little easier for you.....a lot of women don't mind the word, but a lot of the time it's considered a crime of hatred....and that doesn't evoke anything sexy at all....

Just a thought.