I think it's unethical that she accepted gifts from you. You wouldn't have known, but she should have known. Also if she has been hassling you about money for a while, that's not very ethical of her. I'd start trying to find another therapist who could help you while you get through this, even though understandably you also plan to see if it can work out with your current therapist after all you've been through with her.

I'm glad you're in touch with your old therapist.