This is kind of backwards proof, but - a few years ago, i was cutting the grass at my mothers so she made me some pasta and asked me how much cheese i wanted on it. I said just put some. She dumped on a whole bunch, and said i know your brother likes a lot of cheese. I dont like as much. I like a human amount. But it was like she only had a slot in her brain for how much my brother likes - no slot for me. I was just stunned. How can you know what one kid likes but not the other? I guess if you dont pay attention; if you dont attach. Im not looking for hugs or sympathy; im just saying - if you are attached to someone, you think about them, you remember things about them. And vice versa. It was the vice versa i never got, until t.