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Originally Posted by hankster
This is kind of backwards proof, but - a few years ago, i was cutting the grass at my mothers so she made me some pasta and asked me how much cheese i wanted on it. I said just put some. She dumped on a whole bunch, and said i know your brother likes a lot of cheese. I dont like as much. I like a human amount. But it was like she only had a slot in her brain for how much my brother likes - no slot for me. I was just stunned. How can you know what one kid likes but not the other? I guess if you dont pay attention; if you dont attach. Im not looking for hugs or sympathy; im just saying - if you are attached to someone, you think about them, you remember things about them. And vice versa. It was the vice versa i never got, until t.
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Yeah. Once about 2 yrs ago my dad and stepmom came to visit and they brought supper. Which was very thoughtful. It was a BBQ chicken. My dad seemed a bit surprised to learn that we were vegetarian. At that point I'd been vegetarian for about 20-odd yrs, my home with partner has always been vegetarian, my last 5 years under his roof I was vegetarian... Well, you get the picture. And I felt really picky and somehow ungrateful about the chicken. Like I should just eat it because it was nice that he'd brought supper. It's a nice thing about a secure attachment that someone knows you and thinks about you and that when you're upset or you have something to say or show, you can be confident that there's room for it in the relationship.