Hi,
It sounds to me like this is far more than just a 'friend'. I am guessing, she clearly cares about you too- but at this point, if the relationship is stuck on repeat, why would she try again? I am in a very similar predicament. It is hard to say goodbye. Maybe she is waiting, desperately, for you to try and mend things. Prove that you are in it for the long haul. That you trruly care. If she has moved away from you and you fear you may never see her again- what is the fear of rejection worth?
Pride may come before a fall, but the reality is- to give up, to not know, is that pain worth enduring, when you know you could have done more?

As for your friends, they are probably tired of hearing about it. Yet, in the end, they would just want you happy. My friends have told me to end the toxic relationship, that i was in, for my own good. (oh and because they were sick of hearing about it). Yet, they knew how much i loved them, so they put up with it. Offered, advice and suggestions in order to help, none of which seemed to- in my particular case.
Yet, if they were to tell me that all of the games we were in, were just their fear of rejection, that you face. It would completely change the ball game- and i would let down my guard as well, once and for all. Just as you would.
Maybe, it is time for you to tell her the truths, you have kept so well hidden. If you really want her back. Prove it to her. No more games, lies or anything like that. Now is crunch time.

Best of luck! Let me know how it goes..