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I was taught that no one wants to be around someone sad, depressed or always having problems so I had to keep face for everyone else's sake. Always saying "I am great! How are you?" I am now so conditioned that I fear showing weakness and like you only deserve compassion if only seriously hurt. Isolation and avoiding is the best I can do when I am just mentally not well and struggling. Can't have anyone see me.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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