Instead of bringing a list of questions why not just start asking during conversations?? I know A LOT about T not because I asked list of questions but when we have to talked about things I would and it was appropriate to ask I did....

For instance she knew my daughter will be off to college next year and how stressful that is for me. I knew that she was a graduate of Boston College and my daughter was applying there. In telling her about the other colleges she was applying to, she mentioned on of the schools was a great school. She had gone there for a year but transferred. So I asked her why she changed if it was a great school...I also told her that I would understand if it was personal and didn't want to tell me. She told me she got married out of high school so went there for her first year..then her hubby decided he didn't want to be married so they got a divorce and she decided to leave the state and go to Boston.