That sounds very frustrating. There is some overlap with the disorders you mention (anxiety and avoidant personality; bipolar and schizoaffective). It sounds like you have yet to see a psychiatrist with enough knowledge and experince to properly assess your condition. As hard as it is, I would really reasearch gus hospitals in your area. if you can get one who has been in the field for a while (but not at the end of his career either) that would be ideal. These are serious diagnoses to throw around and you need some real help. Do you have online resources you have checked out yet?