Last summer my husband accepted a job working weekend overnights, 12 hour shifts. I work days and we have young children, two in elementary school one in preschool. He really wanted thus job and called me before accepting it. I told him I hated the idea, I hated the idea of him never being around form me and I hate the idea of him being away from the kids.

He's now been at the job for 5 months. The little time I see him he talks of how happy he is. It hurts. I find myself being hurt and angry that he is so happy with his new job even though it means he rarely sees the kids and I. When I do see him its all business, we try to figure out things with the kids and he complains about the state of the house or whatever else he feels I should be doing. Our sex life has suffered too. I do still get laid about 2- 3 days a week but it used to be much more, but we never see each other.

In addition to him being missing from my life, it's hare on the kids too. They ask why he would take a job that keeps him away from them and it tears my heart apart to hear them.

I am finding myself angry, bitter, and detached from our relationship. I am withdrawing, I'm sad all the time, and so desperately lonely. I also feel trapped, like I'm a single parent. In response my husband is angry, is calling me selfish, and he is bitter too.

Is it wrong for me to openly withdraw? Should I just work harder to pretend I'm happy so he can be happy? Pretending is just so exhausting...