So T and I frequently have contact back and forth through email. It doesn't have to be a crisis situation but I don't abuse it. Recently I contacted her to find out the title of a book she recommended etc...

One of her other jobs is that she has a contract 1 day a week to see students at a very prestigious college in our area. We live in a smaller close knit community and the college is pretty close. This weekend there was a student at the college that died a very tragic death. I am sure that it will be very difficult this week at the school. I am thinking about sending her an email telling her I am thinking about her or whatever. She has told me before that she doesn't need me to mother her (she is much older than I am but I often worry about her). This isn't about worrying about her but rather that I am sure her clients at the school will be having a difficult week...and she says sometimes she feels the students are like her kids.