Wow, sorry about your past and current struggles. I don't have a great deal of advice. I have been pretty lucky to have a very supporting group of friends and family. One thing I have seen and experienced when it comes to a mental illness it's very hard for people who don't deal with/experience the turmoil and chaos it brings simply can't grasp or understand how it wreaks havoc on our life. Much harder for the old school generation.

One thing I have used in the past is to try an explain a mental illness like you would a physical illness. If you have a heart condition or lets say diabetes...then people are more likely to have a better understanding. It's so much easier to accept a physical illness than a mental one. Only difference in a physical/mental illness is one affects the body and the other affects the brain.

Support groups are an excellent choice...surround yourself with people who "understand." Online as well as possibly a local support group that meets on a regular basis. I see that you are in San Diego (I was out there for the first time last year visiting a friend...OMG what a beautiful place.) Here is a link that might help provide some options for you DBSA San Diego | Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance

On a positive note, you have made it 28 years with all you have been through. I know it sounds simple, but something to celebrate. Happy early birthday...I have a birthday in March also...the big 44.

Wish you all the best...don't be afraid to reach out. I am new to this group as well and I will say that I don't post a great deal, but I read the board several times a day and there are some amazing folks on here that provide wonderful support...sometimes its a comfort just being around people that share/understand what you go through.