He told me he wants to stay on his same shift at his current job. He said even if something was to open up on another shift, he doesn't want it. Besides, it takes years to build the seniority to work the good shift. The people who work days on the Monday-Friday shift have put in 20 years or more.

He suggested I leave my job and work weekends too so we can have weekday time together. I would never do that though. We have children, and he may be willing to give his time with them up, but I am not. Besides, who would I find to provide daycare for those hours even if I was willing, which I'm not.

I've suggested selling the house and moving somewhere cheaper so he could work fewer hours or find a job he likes more but pays less. He's not considering that either. I know if I was to push him into quitting (which I doubt he'd to anyway) he would be so angry and bitter that our marriage would fall apart anyway. I feel my choices are fake it and live a life of depression and loneliness and at least he's happy, or continue to withdraw and hope I can find happiness without him.