Just wanted to say, i had years of the "saying things funny" work against me. Ts thought things were rezolved because i joked about them. No no no! If they are still in joke state, they are definitely UNresolved. Hurt plus time may equal comedy, but not necessarily resolution. I dont know why ts need this explained to them, but they do. They get comedy as a defense, but instead of hearing whats behind it, they just say stop it. Well we cant just stop it, but my t has started asking "what is that about."