I think I can relate to the person who described themselves as being in a period of mourning. I think I am there too...I don't feel angry at them....but I am full of 'why did this have to happen to me?' 'what would I have been like if this hadn't happened to me?' 'why why why?' and lots of 'its not fair' and 'why didnt anyone help or save me?'
Is it wrong to feel and think this way? is it self pity? (I get real down on myself if I catch myself in real self pity)
How to move forward from this?
How long does it take? (please dont say years!)