Erti: I love that dress! You look gorgeous! What an amazing blue. Even if you don't end up together like him, it may be for a good reason. Even if you end up with someone else they won't be like him but they might be better in their difference. At least you have a good friend. That's important.

Punky: I agree with Sometimes in that you can't always fix everything. But, she needs to learn reality checking which is very hard. Does her therapist work with her on this? The first key though is she needs to know it's happening. I don't think this is something you can fix on your own. The reason my husband is good at it is because he's so blunt. If something is not "real" he will just come right out and say it. His straight forward approach sometimes makes me mad at the time, but in truth I'm really grateful for it because he does help me a lot. Even if I am mad at the time I come back later knowing he helped me....

Sometimes: Hahaha... poultry shaming! That's hilarious!