He sleeps most of Saturday and leaves for work at 5pm, returning 6:30am Sunday morning. He then sleeps until he has to get up to get ready for work. It repeats Sunday to Monday and Monday to Tuesday. He is home Tyes-Friday evenings but usually brings our 8 year old to scouts on Tuesday nights and I take a class on Thursday nights. So we don't see him much. He can't spend time with the kids during the day because they're at school except for the little one who starts school in the fall.

The jib wasn't a great opportunity. In fact, it was an $8,000 cut in pay from where he was when he worked days, but it's low stress.

I have told him how I feel. He says while he enjoys spending time with me, he doesn't miss me or feel the need to be around me. As far as the kids, he says he'll make it up to them this summer. He says he loves us, but doesn't feel the need to spend time with us. Meanwhile I feel completely trapped.

It is true a lot of couples end up work in opposite shifts, I am aware of that. My husband and I agreed before we had kids because we felt it would be too hard on the marriage. In fact, he made me turn down a job last year because it required me to work every other weekend. It's only OK when it benefits him I guess, yet he calls me selfish when I express how upset I am.