I've been through a time in life, where an exbf used to tell me that I think too much. He also used the term self defeatist, towards me. Gosh, i needed counseling, just dealing with him. Ergo, i finished an on campus counseling 16 week session, with that t posing question, didn't I feel perhaps that (ex)bf of mine, was a major issue in my life? Not those words, exactly.
Anyways being the person, that I am, spent the next decade, trying to figure that one out, the part about thinking, too much.
Was I offended, by exbf saying that? Yep.
Taking a closer look backwards, it's not that I think too much, as if thinking things thoroughly, is terrible, it's that I was over assessing, what people meant, without directly asking or letting go of whether they liked me or not. Or whether, i thought they did or not. Unless one expresses yes, or no, I'm better off feeling positions are neutral.
That said, to feel, is human. Pause before a reaction, learned. Over reactions, typically come from a place in past. Regular reaction, knows how it's here and now.

Moods, are human. Happy, sad, angry, etc. handling a reaction, takes skill.



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