All of this makes perfect sense.

First, your insights about TT's doctor-ish trappings need to be brought to her attention. That really is a breakthrough, you know. That is important to tell her first.

Then you could say that "I know you are trying really hard with me but I'm concerned. How do I know if this isn't a good fit? Would you help me find other T's to interview?"

I think if you approach it this way, she won't be offended. Therapists are very much used to being interviewed. Mine knew he was one of 4 possible people. Therapist and client chemistry is the top indicator of positive outcomes--most T's know this research.

I know you don't trust your instincts, but I think you underestimate your ability to pick out those who have potential and those who have zero. You have the ability to attach-- your relationship with lcm proves it.

I understand re: the recital. My main T came to my college graduation, even gave me a gift. I cried!! I felt loved.

I'm not saying you have a bad TT but fit is so important!!