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Originally Posted by Mactastic
I told my therapist that I feel boring to him. I don't have any abuse or trauma to work through... I just suck at people and have poor self esteem. The people in my life are getting married and having babies at warp speed yet I can't even manage a close relationship with my T. It's so sad to me.
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I read somewhere that we don't have to feel like we are entertaining our therapists.
You are probably not boring. T's go into this because they are fascinated by the human condition.
The reason why I don't think you are boring is because I would hope that the token opposite of what you are saying is NOT true as well.
Meaning, just as when you walk in, I hope T doesn't think, "Here is Mac who doesn't have any REAL problems and bores me," ...
... I would hope that if an abuse victim walks in, T does not think, "Ohhh this is going to be a GOOD and juicy one," and rubs his hands together eagerly.
Does that make sense?
You're a person, like anyone else, wanting better, stronger, deeper connections in life.
Finally, a few years ago, I had a lot of tangled problems and layers of problems and I felt like they were too much for my first therapist. That therapist really was entirely focused upon relationship problems, career problems, and parents whose kids misbehaved, and this T couldn't handle trauma or the effects of abuse.