Best to say it how it is. I prefer my anxieties being challenged!
It is the discomfort that i'm avoiding. The intense fear that "i'm not good enough" even though I know i'm pretty average and not highly dislikeable. I guess I constantly try and shape my behaviour so it is 'acceptable'. My therapist is forever saying I should just be who I am as everyone is moody, or anxious or upset at some points in their lives. It's pretty difficult to fully understand this though..does that mean if i'm feeling moody that I can be outwardly that way? Will that not annoy people? Or is it about being authentic but not letting it seep into my behaviour? Or maybe it is about not caring so much about other peoples reactions...they might be annoyed at me being moody but its not the end of the world as they're like that too sometimes. Confusing!
I've bought an enxiety book. My strategy isn't to force it but to try and be open to opportunities rather than feeling as though I should, get overwhelmed by it and end up not doing it and then feeling guilty for wasting an opportunity. At least that is what I'll try. I wish this was easy and I didn't have to endure the discomfort!
Life is so hard!!
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