For years I've been diagnosed with this or that but when I found this site I realized, yes, I was the constant over the years but so were the type of men I allowed into my life. For some reason I attract the passive aggressive narcissistic personalities because of my learned helplessness. I am gaining knowledge now and can see a bigger picture. No medicine in the world will make me make better but choices but being self confident and informed that there are rules to the game gives me power to overcome. Are you involved with this difficult type person and could you give me some tips from your experience that not only defused the issue but kept you sane?