Thanks everyone for the responses. I really appreciate the feedback. As far as my relationship with my grandma, I am talking to my husband about if we can now afford to finally get our own place. We are looking into it. I had to call the access and crisis line this am cause my grandma took some stuff out in me that had nothing to do with me, but it felt like she was shredding whatever self confidence I have left. So we are going to be actively searching for a new home.