First of all, hi everyone...........

In response to - why do they stay? - I can offer this. Being with someone who abuses for a long period is extremely dehumanizing. I think the person who puts up with it after the first time or two has often accepted blame for the abuse, feeling as though he / she deserves it. Thinking this way leads to an absolute loss of self-esteem, depression and all of the fear, isolation and hopelessness that comes with it. Leaving may seem more terrifiying and overwhelming than dealing with the abuse.

I know there are many other reasons; children, economics, employment, etc., but to me, loss of 'self' is probably the main reason.

Oh yes........... and love.

Take care,

Polly