Des, I've recently had my ex-girlfriend breakup with me for the same reason. We're both changing; she's becoming her own independent woman and I'm becoming my own independent man. She was always one to lean on her boyfriends for support and now she's on her own, finding out what she really wants.

We've talked since then, and she is completely satisfied with her decision. She feels like this is comething she has to do in order to mature and become the type of person she has to be.

From the man's perspective, it's hard to deal with because we wonder if we did something to push our signifigant other away. I know in my case, it's especially hard because I'm growing too and without that moral support, it makes it harder. I just couldn't be there for her anymore because I was changing and focusing on my short comings and it was beginning to take it's toll on her.

In the end, it's something everybody has to do sooner or later. I think that if you stay with him, it's only hurting yourself in the long run because you're prolonging your need to change. Who knows, you can sort things out and in the future, discover that you still like him. Whatever you do, I hope you succeed. It's a hard decision to make, but a rewarding one nonetheless.

(Hug)

Love Taylor