Some men, jeez! Some guys that like really thin women make me wonder....their loss!!! Healthy is more appealing I would think. Physical intimacy is such a gift. Please, allow yourself to choose.
Jade

I still have that voice in my head that talks to me about my weight and outer appearance, even though I know it should hush up.

But you are the size you are supposed to be right now. It is not fat in the least.

And if someone is making you feel like you need to be in a different place sexual experience wise? Perhaps they are not the person (or people) you should invest a lot of time in. (It can be challenging. I just withdrew from a group of friends that could not get past my not drinking. Most fascinating thing they could find about me.)


bookmadness

This is a pretty good thread & a very good effort by Alone & Confused as many of us do feel that way. I guess it's our basic emotional need to be heard, to be understood by someone & many of us can relate to the feeling of getting unheard/unanswered/misunderstood & this place is like a platform to all of them. Fortunately, I also do the same or at least try to do the same by lending my sincere listening ears to others but some times others don't realize that you also need to be heard & you get ignored like you don't even exist. It needs a big heart to be able to take everyone's litter which they thrown at you without knowing your capacity & not everyone can do that & I truly value those people who do that.

I.Am.The.End, thanks for sharing your story with all of us. I think I can relate with it pretty well but I try to keep it in my mind that I'm responsible for my own feelings & no one else is. The other person couldn't care more or less for what I or we feel & its true for every other emotion as well whether that would be anger, jealousy, love, hatred, etc. I'd say that at least that friend of yours was an honest person that he dared to tell you that he doesn't love you more than a friend. At least he didn't lead you on or try to cheat with you by taking advantage of your feelings Love & Respect yourself because you wont receive it from others unless you would love & respect yourself. I hope this may make you feel better.