It's not that easy. First of all, growing up under sucky circumstances can cause issues with all types of health, mental, social and physical.

Second, those who had trauma seem to think everyone had it. Mental illness can happen despite no trauma and we need to accept that. I had many people trying to pin down what my "trauma" was and everyone think they had it correct.

Truth is I had a pretty standard childhood.

It is abusive to say someone's trauma doesn't matter, I think we can all agree on that, but it is equally abusive to tell people they have been traumatized, they just don't know it...